Those who know me well have heard me mention how I consider the family I was raised in to be a matriarchal one. This is not to say my father had no say-so. Not at all. In fact, his was pretty much the final word. Sort of like the Supreme Court of the United States. However, my mom was pretty much the Justice System. The laws came through and were enforced by her. I learned later that this was pretty much the standard in most two-parent homes in Harlem where I grew up. Pretty much all the rest (with the exception of the Gibsons) were run by a single mom. I adore my mother. Still until this very day, when I’m in the presence of my mom, I’m instantly her little boy again, despite being nearly half a century old now. I don’t regret it one single bit, either. I love her. And I love the other women in my family as well. As I’ve told my beautiful wife time and again, I’ve never known anything in all of God’s creation more beautiful than a woman, and I mean that most sincerely.
All that said, modern-day feminism confuses me. I can’t for the life of me figure out why the heck the angry women I see in the spotlight get to represent women like my mom and the other women in my family. It sort of reminds me of the Jesse Jacksons and Al Sharptons get to speak for Black America. Who got to choose these representatives? We all deserve better. The women in my family were no little flowers wilting on the sidelines either. I won’t go in to details, but suffice it to say they could very much handle themselves in pretty much any scenario you put them in.
Allow me to now abruptly transition to Exhibit A. What I call the real war on women: Things done in the Islam in the name of “Honor”, of all things. Okay, if you want to call it Extremist Islam, fine. No problem. Call it what you like, but let’s at least address it. How much coverage does the modern-day feminist movement give this topic? Have a look here at this video titled Honor Diaries. These courageous women make the case much better than I do. Then perhaps you can help me understand my confusion a bit more.
The women in that video deserve more than being ignored. And the feminist movement don’t deserve to simply overlook them. It strikes me as simply unjust that they can call themselves “feminist” and ignore that many women being abused, and even murdered.
Lord have mercy.