Spring Cleaning!

As you’ve probably noticed, I’ve gone and bought the domain name theharlemite.com. Plain and simple, it was just time. It gave me a chance to both consolidate “Harlem’s Mac Blog” and “Smiling In Stockholm” into one, and I couldn’t really see a good reason not to. All that said, I’m glad it’s done.

It was recommended that I combine “Smiling In Stockholm” and “Orthodox Harlemite” into one blog since they’re both parts of who I am. Nevertheless, I prefer “Orthodox Harlemite” remaining a strictly Eastern Orthodox focused site. Let there be no doubt, I am, unquestionably, an Eastern Orthodox Christian, and those of you who know me personally or have eaten a meal with me (I usually make the sign of the Cross before every meal) know exactly what I mean; however, I believe blogging about Orthodoxy and anything seriously faith-based requires its own space and focus.

In the meantime, it’s time for me to rejoin the world of blogging. ;)

Real War Games

If you’re reading this blog then I have no doubt in my mind you fully understand what War Games are. Here’s a WIRED article showing what war games are like in 2008.

This former U.S. Air Force member can’t help but wonder what the deal is nowadays with U.S. Army geeks ruling things. Somebody somewhere is slacking!

(Hat-tip to the Norwegian Viking for this one ;) )

“Never Give In. Never, Never, Never”

I was reading the comments to a post on Raiha’s Fitting The Mold blog (a blog about making the transition from somewhere else to Stockholm), and had a serious “Deja vu!” of when I first moved to here nearly 12 years ago.

Like many, I was a “love-refugee”. I left the U.S. military with a very good career going, arrived here under the impression a job was waiting for me, only to find out that wasn’t the case at all. I went from knowing, without question, where my paycheck was coming from and being able to provide for my family to having no job whatsoever. As any working family man can tell you, that’s a tough situation to face. I was fortunate enough to have friends with a cleaning company here offer me a job as a cleaner. At that time, to call the work humbling would be the understatement of the year; however, looking back I treasure every single day of the fall and winter I had that job. The epitome of it all was the lesson of lessons I would learn when my friend’s company got the contract for the area where I was living at the time. My pride was about to take a blow.

I was washing windows on the street where my ex-sister-in-law, Eva, lived. My youngest daughter (at the time), who spent her days with her aunt Eva while my ex-wife and I were at work, was outside playing. She eventually saw her daddy washing the windows of one of the buildings. What did she do? She ran over to me, in all of her beautiful 5 year-old innocence, said, “Hi daddy!”, gave me a big hug, a kiss on the cheek, and asked me if she could help. As long as I live I will never forget that moment. She didn’t care for a moment that her daddy was washing windows or that he was a cleaner. She loved her daddy and simply wanted to help him; plain and simple. It never crossed her mind that he was agonizing over going from living in a huge house in San Antonio, Texas with a two-car garage and two cars, a decorated veteran in the most powerful military on earth, to washing windows in a country where he didn’t speak the language, not having the job he thought he’d have, and unable to see any financial security in the future. None of that mattered to her. Five year-olds, thank God, don’t have to think about such things. She just wanted to help her daddy. That moment shaped my character for the rest of my days. Like a bolt of lightning, what was REALLY important in life became incredibly clear to me. All that I had achieved before, the big house, the military medals, the cars and all could not for one second equal the hug of my Baby-Girl. The power in those tiny little arms had the strength to change a grown man’s life forever. What was really important became so starkly clear that I wondered how I could miss it all before. That was the beginning of a really important series of lessons I would and continue to receive in Sweden.

One other lesson I learned was to appreciate the work of folks behinde the scenes who rarely if ever get thanks for what they do. I have more respect than most for the back-breaking work of folks who make sure a lot of our work places are clean.  It was humbling work, but we earned our money and took pride in what we did. (Ironically, and wonderfully, I found myself partnered up with a former lawyer from Chile, and our Greek boss from Canada who had genuine Spartan blood in him (for all of you “300″ fans). There were times when we’d be mopping the floors in what I now know was a Posten office and discussing Plato’s “The Republic”. How about that!)

Since then I’ve worked in a grocery store in Söder (that’s another post all on its own!), as a security guard, and now work as a Telephone Technician and System Administrator. There have been a few bumps along the way, some of them quite severe; nevertheless, I’m a man of faith who believes that a Divine hand has and remains over me.

So, to all my fellow immigrants out there who are toughing it out and going through the motions of immigration my advice to you is rather Churchillian: “Never give in. Never, never, never!” Hard work and humility do pay off. That much I’m sure of! Yeah, this little country has it’s quirks, but don’t they all? Try and stay positive even during the hardest of times. Take it from me, those are the times when the best lessons are likely to happen, so be ready for them. Whatever you do try not to get so down that you miss the lesson. ;)

Laterz.

 

My, How Things Have Changed!

About 20+ years ago I made my first visit to Stockholm. Folks immigrating here nowadays would be hard-pressed to believe what I saw then. Now, I’m not about to say it was a terrible place. Stockholm has always had its charm; even then.

There were a handful of night clubs, and the Daily News was pretty much the best of the bunch at that time (they served a great shrimp sandwich! I haven’t had one to match it sense then). If celebrities were in town, that and the old favorite Café Opera was where they would head. Seeing as Café Opera is still around, we’ll don’t have to guess who gets the management prize between them.

Seeing as my first visit occured during the tail-end of the Fall/beginning of Winter, the weather was as lovely  as you think (apply full irony here folks). It was cold. As someone who had been living on Crete for about two years at the time, I was EXTRA cold. Nevertheless, I endured.

There were two, count’em, two TV channels to choose from: SVT1 and SVT2. Period. You’re probably asking yourself, “Was it as bad as I think?” No. It was worse. I literally recall a show that had classical music playing in the background which simply panned across on painting after another. I’m not making this up. If you were looking for a show in English, your best would’ve been something along the lines of Dynast, Dallas, Falcon Crest, or Twin Peaks (Yep. I’m that old. lol).

When I tired of Blake and Crystal Carrington or J.R. Ewing, Sue Ellen and the gang, my one glimmer of hope was the video store. There was no mistake in my grammar. I wrote “the video store”. In the area I was staying in (Fisksätra, for the enlightened Stockholmer), there was one video store. The videos were (and still are if you ask me) a bit pricey for my liking, but I was grateful to have some other form of entertainment besides going to coffee shops with my ex- or having the dear woman try and find as many of her English speaking friends as possible to spend time with me and keep me from becoming bored.

The video store also introduced me to particular type of new friends I would spend far too much time with: Estrella Dill Potato Chips. For those of you reading this who havn’t tried them, don’t knock them until you have. After tasting, with much hesitation, the first chip the fight was pretty much over. A large bag was needed. I went through that bag of dill chips quicker than a chainsaw through jello. (My heart and I are happy to report that I’ve since cut way back on the chips. ;) )

Things have changed quite a bit since then, my friends. While I’m definitely no longer the night-clubbing kind, they come and go just as quick as fashionable clothing here. But, I’m glad to say there’s a benefit to this. An addition to this growth of night clubs that I’ve definitely learned to appreciate is the growing pub culture here.  Hats off to the Brits and Irish who have obviously made their marks here! I may not go to night clubs any longer, but I still find the charms of a good English pub hard to resist (my favorite in particular being the Tudor Arms.

The Swedish weather is what it is, but I’ve learned to embrace a very appropriate Swedish saying: “Det finns inget dåligt väder; bara dåligt kläder”. Roughly translated, “There is no such thing as bad weather; only bad dressing/dressing poorly (as in unprepared for said weather)”. As long as I’m prepared for the weather I’m good to go. Anyone planning one making it here will learn that quick.

As far as the TV situation now, in a country with an IT brain pool like Sweden’s, a lot of whom got their educations in TV saturated countries like my lovely US of A, it was only a matter of time before the addiction was passed on (Muahahahahahaha!!!). I have more than enough TV to keep me satisfied. While it’s not, thank goodness, like the 600-channel packages I see in the States when I visit my family, it’s more than enough. Especially since my cable provider included NASN in their cable package giving me access to American College Football, the NBA, Major League Baseball, the NHL, and even Lacrosse if I’m desparate! :D

As far as food, unless your head’s been buried in the sand somewhere you know that, as strange as it is, Swedish chefs have been making their mark in the world of cooking. There is WAY more than dill chips to be had here. My wife and I have more than our fair share of favorite places to eat (e.g. Caliente, Stockholms Matvarufabriken, and, of course Tudor Arms for a nice atmosphere and great pub food just to name a couple).

Another bonus to living in a country on the cutting edge of IT is the internet access. As I tend to tell my friends in other countries, this place is pretty much one big ball of copper. They find it hard to believe I have a 24Mbps ADSL connection at home that’s not so expensive I have to sell my first-born. Sweden has become the place to become net-savvy. Even the retired folks here know how to handle a mouse and hit the net. Mobile technology is no joke here either. My US counterparts have always envied my mobile phones. A sure sign of just how demanding the mobile telephone market here is is the iPhone. You can’t get it here. Oh, there are some who have it. But until it’s 3G it won’t be mass-marketed here. But when that does happen… ;)

Lastly, there’s location. Even on my first visit I noticed Stockholm didn’t lack for travel offices. That hasn’t changed. If anything there are tons more options online now. Whenever the winters get too dark (usually around the 20th of December when the sun’s coming up at 0900 and going down at 1400, and overcast the entire day), I can take advantage of living in Central Europe and find a last minute flight to a beach somewhere in Greece, Spain, France, and pretty much anywhere in Europe at a reasonable price. This is including the hotel. It’s not at all uncommon for Swedes to head to Thailand to try and get skin as golden brown as mine. In fact, I know a family who just returned (hello guys and welcome back!) :D

Yep. Things have changed here. I’m glad to say, mostly for the better. May the “better” continue with the growth in popularity Sweden is experiencing.

Enjoy the day folks. Laterz.

More Spring Time Shots Where We Live

It looks like it’s going to be another one of those days today. One of those days where you simply look up to the skies and smile gratefully to God for being alive. How can I not? Look at this shot of what’s to my left when I leave the entrance of our building:

To the Left

And here’s what’s near straight across from us:

Almost straight ahead

And then to the left diagonally:

Left diagonal

They’re all cherry blossoms. In fact, the name of our courtyard roughly translated is “Cherry Courtyard”.

So, whenever you hear someone complain about Sweden, or try to describe it as all snow and boring, feel free to click your way back here. ;)